Friday 10 April 2015

15 Most haunted Places in India List by ASI Famous for Paranormal-Activities

The mysteries of the unknown have always fascinated the human mind. It’s not surprising for experts to say that India is a beautiful yet deliciously mysterious country that beholds the secrets and stories of a lot of palaces and their kings, of treasures and their keys, of those who died a painful death and are now a part of the broken synchrony that is reality. Which is why a lot of forts or palaces or beaches or even a ‘just another’ valley in India has a history or a twist of mystery attached to it or something which makes a more interesting case.

Are you fond of the unknown? Do you remember the Zee Horror Show or the Aahat?

If you are one of those who love to turn the pages long sealed and kept hidden from the human eye, if the word ‘supernatural‘ gives you an adrenalin rush, you, my friend, like me and many others, are someone who likes to push the boundaries a little and take a peek into what’s happening in the strange, mysterious world out there. This post is for all the travellers who are done with the monotony of life and are looking forward to exploring the unexplored.

Some tales can be stranger than fiction, which is why I say – At your own risk!

Here’s a wiki list of the fifteen such haunted places carefully mapped out for your benefit.

1. Bhangarh Fort – Ajabgarh, Alwar, Rajasthan

The ghost town of Bhangarh is one of the scariest, spookiest places you could possibly imagine, not to mention, one of the most abandoned places in India. Situated near a popular forest, this town is now slowly luring visitors from around the area, and country, for all the wrong reasons.
It should be noted that if you decide to visit this place after the sun has gone down, you won’t be allowed to. In fact, there is a strict warning about how dangerous this place becomes after sunset.
The story which this town is well-known for tells the tale of a magician who fell in love with the local princess of the area even though their match was impossible. Being quite the master of dark magic, he decided to cast a spell on her to make her surrender to him. However, the princess learned of his plans and found a way to kill him. Before his death, however, the magician cast a dark spell on the palace which caused its doom.
Despite Bhangarh Fort being regarded as one of the most horror places in India has been officially promoted as a tourist destination. However, once the night falls and the darkness takes over, this place becomes deserted, leaving it prey to the supposed ‘supernatural’. Mystery of Bhangarh Fort also featured on a TV show and you can have a look at the most haunted place in India’s video yourself.


2. Kuldhara – Rajasthan


The village of Kuldhara is popularly known to be a deserted ghost village that has been abandoned since 1800s. It is said to carry a curse of the villagers who vanished from there overnight, after having lived there for over 7 centuries.
The village lies in ruins, established in 1291 by the Paliwal Brahmins, who were a very prosperous clan and were known for their business acumen and agricultural knowledge. It has been said that one night in 1825 all the people in Kuldhara and nearby 83 villages vanished in dark. All of a sudden and without any warning.
Tales about this mystery include the fact that Salim Singh, the minister of the state, once visited this village and fell in love with the beautiful daughter of chieftain wanting to marry her. The minister threatened the villagers by saying that if they did not marry the girl to him, he would levy huge taxes. The chief of the village along with those of adjoining villages decided to abandon and migrate elsewhere to protect the girl’s honour. Nobody saw them leave nor did anyone figure where they went, they simply vanished. It is said that the villagers also cast a spell on the village as they left, cursing anyone who tried to inhabit the land.

3. D’Souza Chawl in Mahim – Mumbai


Owing to D’Souza Chawl, Mahim has acquired the status of being the most haunted place in Mumbai. It is said that a woman fell into the water and died crying for help in the well. Probably that is why most people say that they’ve witnessed a woman lurking around the well and the nearby area.

4. The Shaniwarwada Fort – Pune

Known for its sheer architectural brilliance, this fort has witnessed various spooky occurrences. It is believed that the level of supernatural activity is on its zenith on every full moon night. The mysterious story behind the strange activities suggests that a young prince was brutally murdered here which is maybe why his spirit haunts the place and when the night falls, sounds of him shrieking can be heard. There are many locals who actually camp at night on the fort grounds just to hear the little boy’s scream.
It is preferable to visit the fort during day hours since the fort is deserted at night except for maybe a caretaker. Visit this place at your own risk as this would definitely be the scariest place in Pune.


5. GP Block – Meerut


GP Block in Meerut is also very notoriously known for all the paranormal activity it beholds. Despite being a popular zone, there have been reportedly a lot of strange sightings.
For instance people who pass this place claim to have seen four males sitting together and enjoying an alcoholic beverage by the light of a single candle. At first, this was not considered spooky for it could just be four friends having a good time but once it was established that it was indeed four ghosts, people in and around the area became increasingly interested. In addition, some claim to also witness a young girl coming out of the house in what many people believe to be a red dress. With time people have abandoned that place for obvious reasons but it continues to catch the fancy of those who love the paranormal.

6. The Vrindavan Society – Thane

Considered to be of the most famous housing societies of Thane, this society is also home to a bit of paranormal. Many of its residents and night watchers have experienced what may only be termed as strange and bewildering.
This society however doesn’t look like it is haunted, in fact it was known for its luxurious apartments.
Anyway, it has been reported that there was once a man who lived in the society who happened to commit suicide. His spirit is said to haunt the society once the hours turn dark. In fact, the night guards have witnessed a lot of strange activities which have also included a guard getting slapped in the face with such force that he nearly toppled from his chair. Immediately afterwards both the guards searched the whole society and they could not find anyone around.
This incident instilled fear in the minds of the residents who are careful not to enter the society too late in the night. However, the housing society still remains occupied even though the paranormal activities continue to haunt the residents and guards.

7. Dumas Beach, Surat- Gujarat

Situated along the Arabian Sea in Gujarat, this beach is known for its black sand and mystical activities.
Many unexplainable and puzzling incidents have been known to occur like strange whispers being heard, people disappearing during night etc.
In fact, it is believed that a lot of people have lost their lives exploring this mysterious beauty.

If you are a brave heart, you can test the waters yourself by taking a midnight stroll along the beach, if you have company. If the testimonies are anything to go by, you will also be greeted by warnings asking you to not cross a certain line while on the beach. It is also believed that this beach was for long used as a Hindu burial ground, therefore, being the resting place of tortured souls. There have also been reports of people disappearing mysteriously and having never been found again. However, if you still feel you would want to go for it then by all means. If you love the paranormal you would definitely have the time of your life.

8. Jatinga – Assam


Having a population of around 2500, this village is popular worldwide for its unexplained phenomenon of bird suicides. Most of the migratory birds visiting the area never leave the village, dropping dead for no rhyme or reason on the streets. The case gets even more inscrutable as these birds always plummet to their death between 06:00 p.m. to 09:30 p.m. on the moonless nights of September and October.
These mass suicides only occur on a specific 1 mile by 600 feet strip of land and this phenomenon is said to have occurred year after year without a break for more than a century. Many theories have been offered by scientists to explain this phenomenon, the most popular one being that these birds are attracted towards village lights which later confuse them, along with many others.

None of them have yet been able to prove any of the theories behind this phenomenon though, which is why it continues to haunt and intrigue the minds of the residents and travellers just the same.

9. Ramoji Film City – Hyderabad

Being one of the biggest film cities in the country, this place is home to a lot of hotels which have been projected to a lot of controversy because of the reported “supernatural activities” in and around them.
Witnesses report the lights kept on top keep falling off, the light men- who sit with the lights on top have been pushed so many times and many have had grievous injuries. The food left in rooms also gets scattered around the room and strange marks are left on the mirrors.

Females are more targeted by the ghosts than the males. Girls reported an invisible force tearing their clothes off, some said they felt someone knock their washroom doors while the rooms remain locked from the inside. They create havoc. Many preventive measures have been taken but in vain. Must visit in case you want to experience the paranormal for yourself.

10. Raj Kiran hotel – Lonavla, Maharashtra

This hotel was reported to be one of the hit zones as far as the “super natural” is concerned. Residents of one particular room in this hotel claimed to have their bed sheets pulled over and stayed put in such state long after they’d leave the bed in a scare. This room is in the corner and at the backside of the reception on the ground floor itself.

11. Sanjay Van (near Qutab Institutional Area) – New Delhi

Sanjay Van is a huge forest area spread over around 10 kms. People have reported having seen a lady dressed in a white saree appearing and disappearing suddenly around the cremation ground near that area. No wonder this area is regarded as Delhi’s most haunted place. Make sure that you are not alone here, especially after the dark.

 12. Dow Hill in Kurseong – Darjeeling

Dow Hill might not be a very sought after place but is definitely one of the most haunted places in India. The Dow Hill Boarding School for Girls is very well known for spooky activities bordering on the paranormal. There have been reports talking of ghostsightings. Also, the forest that surrounds the school is considered to be haunted. In fact, many woodsmen who visit the forest have reported seeing a headless boy who suddenly appears and then disappears into the forests. Legend has it that there were innumerable murders which took place in this forest area. That says more than required on the matter.

13. The Brij Raj Bhavan Palace in Kota – Rajasthan

The Brij Raj Bhavan Palace in Kota should definitely be on your list being one of the most ‘ghostly’ places in India. This old palace converted into a heritage hotel is apparently haunted by a British ghost who was killed during the Revolt of 1857. There are some who also add that Major Burton (the ghost) along with his sons was shot right inside the palace and therefore, he haunts the place. In fact, in this palace, considered by many as one of the most mysterious places in India, the ghost of the Major doesn’t really harm anyone, but the night guards claim to have been slapped by an invisible hand in the middle of the night.
The perfect place to visit if you want to explore the unknown and stay out in the clean.


14. Agrasen ki Baoli, Hailey Road, New Delhi

An Ancient Step Well situated right in the heart of central Delhi takes you by surprise if you are out on the streets for a walk. Ironically, it is actually quite impossible to miss having a unique blend of architecture with a signature design known to have existed only centuries ago. Although there are no known historical records to prove who built the beautifully designed step well, it is under the protection of ASI for being a rare historical specimen, one of its kinds.
It is not known for any kind of supernatural activities but for its mystic feel and the hearsay stories about how some felt like they were being followed by an invisible somebody and the intensity of the same increased if they started walking faster. This is definitely something you need to experience first hand to really believe it.

 15. Bengal Swamps – West Bengal (Aleya Ghost Lights)

Aleya lights also known as marsh ghost lights are the unexplainable ghost lights reported in the marshes generally by the local fishermen. These lights are said to confuse fishermen causing them to lose their bearing. It may lead to drowning if one starts following these lights moving over the marshes. Many bodies have washed ashore on these swamps that locals attribute to Aleya lights. Residents believe that these strange hovering marsh-lights are in fact ghost-lights representing the ghosts of fisherman who died fishing. Sometimes they confuse the fishermen while sometimes they help them avoid future dangers.

You know what they say -See it to believe it!

India is definitely a place of mysteries. For very long, people in the west have thought of India as a place of snake charmers and magicians. People have been visiting India to places like Varanasi, Rishikesh, Haridwar, etc. for spirituality. India has been the origin for 4 of World’s biggest religions: Hinduism, Buddhism, Sikhism and Jainism. And as they say, good spirits and bad spirits go hand in hand.

Indian Hindu mythology is full of devils and “Asuras” (demons). Time to time, various demons have rose and fought against angels and gods. According to hindu mythology, spirits never die and those spirits which die unnatural death can never find peace and keep roaming around, causing the place to be haunted. These free-roaming spirits have also been known to attack people, create unnatural incidents and make the places spooky.

These haunted places across India are just among the famous ones. Children in India grow up to listening to lots of stories from their grandmothers and some of them include haunted stories. Almost every village in India has a tree or a well which is supposedly haunted. A woman in white sari has been the typical image of spirits. I have spent so many nights discussing haunted stories with my friends and they always give me a chill in my spines, yet they are so much fun. I am sure you would also have heard of such stories or maybe created one

In case you know of more haunted places or if you have experienced some paranormal activity yourself or know of haunted stories, please do share in the comments.

Indian Traditions : Lifestyle



Lifestyle

Punjabi, Marathi, Bihari, Bengali, Assamese, Nepali, Gujrati, Kashmiri…. Though India consists of diverse ethnic races and groups and each of them strictly adhere to their own set of customs and tradition, yet there is a common lifestyle pattern followed by almost all the Indians. This, despite the fact that there is so much variation in their language, dressing style and custom! Read on to know about the life of people in the country and what traits put them together under the brand 'India':

Joint Family System
A majority of the people in India prefer to live in a joint family, which could comprise anywhere between a group of two or more members to even over 20 members sometimes. As per the Indian way of living, the commanding position in a family is held by the eldest earning male member. He consults other adult members on important issues, but it is his decision that ultimately prevails. However, a lot of importance is also given to the advice of the eldest retired members of the family.

Women as Homemaker
As per the lifestyle of the Indian people, it is the duty of a woman to take care of her home. As such, from her very childhood, a girl child is taught to rustle up mouth-watering dishes by her mother and other ladies in her family. She is also taught to attend to guests and strangers politely and elegantly because it is thought to greatly reflect upon her upbringing. Hers is a 24x7 job, yet she manages to execute it smoothly and is respected for this quality.

Worshipping
Worshipping is an important part of the daily life of Indian people. You will find the holy basil tulsi planted in maximum houses, which people water as well as worship everyday religiously. Many Indians are associated to various religious sects and attend weekly gatherings to listen to the sermons. Apart from temples, mosques and gurdwaras, there will also invariably be a personal place for worship, and pictures of Gods and Goddesses, in every house in India.

Respecting Elders
One common trait you will find amongst Indians is that children show utmost respect to their elders. Now this is one habit all Indian parents deliberately inculcate in their children, since beginning. It is an unsaid rule in India that a person cannot answer back to elders and more so, when he/she is at fault. It is deemed disrespectful in India to refer to an elder by his / her name. Instead people prefer calling them uncle and aunt, especially if the person is very elderly. It is also customary in India for the youngsters to touch the feet of their elders as a way of greeting as well as on important occasions.

Thursday 9 April 2015

Can You Try to Fit In Too Much?



There comes a point when you have to decide who you are.
Are you a Frenchman temporarily living in Mumbai? Or are you an Indian who happens to have roots in France?
How far do you let your new culture impact your life? Do you simply wear kurtas around the house? Do you decide only to eat Indian food? How much of their mindset will you adopt? Do you go beyond understanding hierarchy to actually participating in and leveraging it?
How strongly should you hold on to your home culture? When is it appropriate to be your “normal Australian self”, and when are you being culturally insensitive?
Everyone must answer these questions individually, but the answer might be, “it depends.”
In an article I submitted to InterNations Magazine, I examined some times when it is better to adopt the new culture and when it is best to stay the same.
You can read the article here: Page 1Page 2Page 3.

For those living abroad, or preparing for a move, InterNations can be a great resource. It is a vibrant, informal network of expats around the world. No matter where you are going, you are likely to find some events where you can meet like-minded people. They also have some really good, quality information on their website for those needing a global perspective.
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13 ways to be a gracious god in India



Marty was a bit nervous about his first trip to India. He was visiting a team he had worked with for a few months, and was delivering some additional training to them.
A driver with Marty’s name greeted him at the airport and tried to take Marty’s bags. Marty felt a mix of suspicion and do-it-yourself-ness, and got into a small tug-of-war match to take his bags away from the driver.
When he walked into the office after freshening up, the entire office stood up with smiles to greet him. Marty gave a mostly blank look and tried to quickly find a place to set his things down. The head of the office came and asked if he’d like to join him for tea. “No thank you, I’ve got to get a few things organized here first,” Marty said.
After getting settled, the team took Marty out to lunch. On the way, Marty said he was still feeling a little jet-lagged and wasn’t very hungry. After looking over the menu, Marty selected a single bowl of soup. “Don’t you want some rice or Indian breads?”, the team asked. “No thank you, I’m trying to watch my carbs and my wife says I need to eat less gluten.”

Atithi Devo Bava

Nothing is more central to the Indian view of hospitality than atithi devo bhava, ‘the guest is god’. And any trip to a Hindu temple or pooja closet will show you that they treat their gods very well.
However, some guests like Marty don’t turn out to be very gracious gods in return. They reject gifts, go into seclusion, and seem to dislike their time in India. Westerners in general turn out to be very bad ‘gods’. We think we don’t deserve better treatment than others. We try to carry our own bags, open our own doors, and pay for our own food.
This kind of behavior threatens to really damage your relationship with your India team. If you don’t act like a good guest, you will leave a bad impression.
The best advice I’ve learned about being a gracious guest is to play the role of the god. Pretend that you have a role to play. Indian culture demands that someone be honored in this way, and you have been chosen to play the part. Rejecting that role for the sake of your own personal comfort ortrying to change the culture is not the path you want to walk. We should spend more time thinking about how to be a good guest in India.

13 steps to being a better guest (‘god’):


1. Bring a gift. I put this first because I always forget it. A gracious god rewards devotees with small blessings. If you are visiting an office, bring a bag or two of small chocolates from your home country for everyone to share. If you are visiting a friend, bring a simple home decoration, some of your favorite music, or some alcohol if you know that they drink.
2. Eat a lot. Indian gods are known for eating well and Indians love to fill your stomach. Visiting India is not the time to start a diet. The gods would never say “I’m full” just as dessert is coming out. Some additional thoughts:
  • Don’t be picky about the food. Just because you think you don’t like ‘Indian food’ doesn’t mean you won’t find something you love.
  • Eat lots of small portions. Better to eat a little bit of everything than leave something untouched.
  • Pick one food to ask for seconds. This is very important because it shows that you really liked something.
  • Order local food. Even if they offer it to you, stay away from pizza, pastas, and ‘burgers’.
  • Praise the food. Vocalize your enjoyment of the food several times.
3. Never refuse tea/coffee. If time is a currency of relationships, then tea/coffee is a way to get rich quick. Order it ‘regular’ (with milk and sugar) as often as you can. Don’t request a refill as you’ll likely have some more very soon.
4. Never say “thank you”. When you say thank you, you trivialize the relationship and turn it into a simple transaction. Indian gods never give a simple “Thanks.” Instead, say things like, “What a wonderful meal!”, “This was fabulous!”, “I feel so blessed to have friends/colleagues like you!” or “You are magnificent hosts!”
5. Don’t expect to pay. 95% of the time, it is inappropriate for you to offer to pay if you are a guest. The only time this doesn’t apply is if you are already good friends with someone, you are at about the same perceived economic level, and there are multiple chances to pay.
6. Greet everyone in the family. If you meet someone’s family (friend or colleague), get to know all the people living in their home and greet them respectfully.
7. Relinquish your schedule. If you are someone’s guest, you are on their time. Don’t fret about the schedule and check your watch constantly. Let them handle everything. Don’t try to make short meetings with other people without informing your host. If you get really nervous about the time of a flight, just inform them that it is leaving 30 minutes ahead of schedule. #TimeIsEternal
8. Stop comparing everything to your home country. Cultural discussions and comparisons are natural and are fun. What is annoying is when every sentence out of your mouth starts with “Well, in my country…”. Learn the right small talk topics to focus on.
9. Be especially gracious and honoring to the highest-ranking person you meet. This can be in the business context (CEO, HOD), or the family (Grandfather/mother). The better impression this person has of your respectfulness, the better it looks for your host. #Powerplays
10. Don’t criticize anything. Even small comments about the dirt on the roads or the insane traffic can come across as offensive if you say them wrong.
11. Be familiar with some formalities. You won’t be expected to do everything perfectly, but it goes a long way to be comfortable taking your shoes off when you enter a house, presenting yourvisiting card with two hands, or giving the namaste to elders in the family.
12. Learn one phrase in the local language. This will go a long, long way.
13. Follow up about their family by name. After you return to your home, stay in good contact. Asking about ‘Auntie’ or someone’s son will definitely endear you more.

Being a god isn’t easy, especially when you are in a new culture. Take these tips and practice them the next time you are trying to figure out how to be a good guest in India, and live up to the honor that you will be given!